Dear Shirley and Steve,
I am 45 and my husband is 46. We have been married for almost 18 years and have 4 children (teenage boys 15 and 13 and twin girls age 6). Sex between us was really good and often. My husband wanted sex ANY time he saw me. I thought it was borderline neurotic, but my ego (and he) made me believe that it was all about me! For a few years it was everyday, but eventually I got bored with it and kids came along and life required that I do other things. This became a point of contention for us. I tried to accommodate him as best as I could but eventually he started cheating on me and for the most part, I forgave him. We remained together and then had our twins, but from that point forward, sex was something I did because I had to or when I felt the urge to, but never when he wanted it and mostly with an attitude. Recently, I found out that he was having sexually explicit conversations with women on facebook and exchanging naked pictures of himself. Even some people who were "friends" with me. I never expected that part, but here we are. In the past few months he has been having a lot of difficulty paying his portion of the bills but when I asked him about it he couldn't explain where his money was going. Then one weekend after he missed the payment for our kids karate and dance classes we had a big argument and he blurted out that he had been paying for sex. I was floored. He blamed me for not satisfying him like a wife is supposed to and stormed out of the house. Under normal circumstances, this would be it. But here is where I am confused. In the past few years I have become spiritual and a practicing Christian. I know I took vows to be with this man, but that was before God and church and Christianity was really a part of my life. I love church and I love God in a way that I never did before and I want to do what is "expected" of me, but I can't believe that God wants me to stay with this man who has done this to our relationship with my help, I guess. Anyway, I know I have to forgive him, but I don't think I can ever sleep with this man again. Do I have to stay and try to work this out? I'm at my wits end. He barely even acknowledged what he has done and still tries to sleep with me every night! I'm hurt and insulted but I want to do what is right in a faithful way. Please help.
Hi steve and Shirly i am a 21 Y/O female with 2 children and also married, who lives in a good neighbor-hood, but it is this one neighbor that cateches my eye he's is really attractive with nice eyes and about my age but im married and love my husband i find him no more than a neighbor but what i noticed is, hes more like a "watcher", first it started out slowly he would watch me each day i went to work each morning just sitting out in a lawn chair drinking a beer but would never say anything i wave frequently to soften the tension. soon after those stages of this one day i was just getting home for work and i was tired and i had just picked up my kids from day care when i walked into my home everything was fine until i heard noises in my back room knowing it wsnt my husband becasue he gets off usually around 10 so i know it was something wrong. i went into my room and i saw someone legs flop out my window and guess who it was! YES! it was him now i didnt call the police but i did not see anything that he may have taken but one EXCEPT my Victoria Secret Thong I had in my draw. NOW i know this man has a thing for me. whne my husband had finally came home i explained to him my underware were missing from my draw and also i saw him falling out my window. but he insisted it was a bird or whatever but I am still concerned. he really didnt even listen to me. so i left it alone. a few weeks later he stop sitting outside in the lawn chair and i didnt see him as much, but today I came home and I was undressing from work i was tired so i undressed myself and got ready to take a shower and my window curtains were put up so my window was all open and I had saw out the corner of my eye and he was watching me mean i was naked fully down to the crack. I quickly grabbed myself and wrapped whatever their was laying near around me and ran to the bathroom a few minutes later he knocks on my door and i dont know why i let him in we talked and he said if i didnt let him "F" me thier was going to be consequences he threaten me so visciously but i know my husband would not beleieve me since they knew each other pretty well, Steve i think this is getting a little to dangerous im alredy a cautious peson should i call the police or should i try to talk to my husband about it. im getting very uncomfortable.
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Dear Breakfast Club: I need some advice as to a personal issue I have been experiencing as to my last several relationships; it seems lately that I have been attracting men who have miniature equipment which usually last every bit of one minute which is a turn off and a deal breaker! I have been told on numerous occasions that size does not matter; however, I beg to differ; especially when it’s a minute or less. My last partner bragged of a two hour session; which ultimately resulted in a minute session. It is so frustrating and a waste of time that I have given up hope and have since stopped dating, I am tired of dead-weight and small equipment. Do you have any suggestions? HELP!!!!!!!!
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THEY HOLDING A PRAYER VIGIL FOR ALEX RODRIGUEZ...WHERE WAS ALL THAT WHEN TRAYVON MARTIN GOT SHOT...THEY DOING THIS FOR BASEBALL PLAYERS, WHAT THE H#LL...WE AIN'T GOT NOTHING ELSE TO FIGHT FOR...WHAT A TRIPP
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