Hi Morning Crew! I am a 35-year-old woman who is trying to make sure I'm not messing myself up by not wanting to be a "girlfriend" to someone that I have been involved with for the last NINE years. I met this dude in 1995 but we did not have any type of situation until 2004 when I moved back to Richmond, VA from Detroit, MI. I was cool just dating and kicking it with him because my focus was on my little son (at the time). As the years went on we became closer and people would ask why I didn't define our relationship. He had previous relationships with some crazy acting females (I got witness some of the nonsense) and was not ready to do the relationship thing and I let it go figuring maybe he would come around, especially since he asked me to be patient. Since I do not involve myself with multiple men I was cool with it. Well, nine years has passed we were boyfriend/girlfriend "officially" for about nine months and it was basically the worst experience I have ever been in for it to be my first real relationship. It was to the point that I do not think I want another relationship. We were still dealing with each other because, I had nothing else to do and we seem to get along better without titles. Now, because he feels he's getting "old" (he's 36) he wants to settle down and asked me to be his GIRLFRIEND. I'm not feeling that. After all this time now he wants to be coupled up after I don't want to anymore and then he gets an attitude because I said No? Seriously, Morning Show, should I be upset about this? Am I not too old to be a girlfriend to someone that I already walked that road with? Shouldn't we be at a higher level than this? I am afraid that I am making too much of this and at the same time I think it is ridiculous to expect me to happy about wanting to be just a girlfriend after all this time when you know that if I am messing with you then you are the only man I am dealing with and been dealing. I don't know what to think. Any insight?
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