Dear Steve and Shirley, my wife has been calling another guy and telling me that it was for her coworker. She has been calling and texting this guy, right after hanging up with me and even while we are sitting in the house together. All while we are out around my family, texting back and forth with this guy. One night, she came home late after hanging out with her coworker and that's when I started checking the phone messages. I saw all of the phone calls and text messages, back and forth, between her number his phone number. At first she told me that it was a coworker's phone number, but I didn't buy it. Then she told me, after I had been looking at the phone records, that it was her friend that was having the affair ... but I didn't buy that either, because she was calling this guy after work. I asked her how long has her friend been having the affair and she told me two months. But, the phone records show a whole year of phone calls to this guy. I can't handle infidelity. We have been married for 15 years with two children, ages 14 and 9. I used to think that my wife loved me and would never do anything to hurt me, but now I feel like I don't know her. I don't trust her. Should I leave or should I stay? What should I do? I love her, but it is not the same. She has not admitted it or owned up to it, but has said, "Forgive me and let's move on." It's not that easy for me. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I think about having an affair to get even, but I know that's not right. I don't know what to do ... Should I leave?
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