Dear Steve & Shirley, I'm a 41-year-old professional African-American man in Atlanta that has been divorced for ten years and I have a ten-year-old son that I love dearly. We were married for four years and had our son in the fifth year, which is the same year that we got divorced. My ex-wife and I are cool and we do a good job of co-parenting. But this is not what this letter is about. Ever since my divorce I have dated a lot of women, some serious, most not. I have dated female business executives, doctors, news anchors etc; great women that any man would be lucky to have, but I continuously feel unfulfilled in these relationships. It is also concerning to me that I don't get those butterfly feelings of love anymore. I read your book and several others about relationships to try to discover what I'm missing, but I can't seem to find the answer. Most of my male friends are divorced and the ones that are married say that if they did get divorced then they would not get married again. I'm beginning to think that marriage is not worth it. Here is my question. Why should I get married? Money? I've been earning six figures for over a decade. Companionship? I have five quality women that I can call right now! Stability? I have a house and two cars and several savings accounts. Domestic help? I cook better than most women and I keep my house clean. A mom for my son? My son's mom is a good mom and I'm very involved in his life as well. Long-term partnership? In today's world, most marriages end in divorce, so that is not guaranteed. I'm trying to see if marriage is worth it. What is the up-side of marrying again? It seems more and more like a financial, emotional and constrictive liability to me versus an asset. Signed "Is it worth it"?
Zoe Saldana Poses Topless for Allure, Says She Might "End Up" Raising Kids With a Woman
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Zoe Saldana has nothing to hide! The 34-year-old Star Trek Into Darkness actress strips down in the June issue of Allure magazine, posing topless in just a pair of jeans in one shot and going fully nude in another. She also gives a brutally honest interview about her past relationships, sexuality and pursuing what she wants
In fact, the actress may not want to continue dating men at all. "[I might] end up with a woman raising my children," she says of her sexuality. "That's how androgynous I am."
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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am absolutely at my breaking point right now. My husband and I have been together for three years and everything was going well until about four months ago. We never completely stopped having sex, but there has definitely been an emotional disconnect. I never before felt like I had a reason not to trust him, so I've never snooped through any things even though I've always know the password for the phone and email. Well, the recent change in him finally got to me and I went through his phone. I discovered that not only has he slept with someone else, but she is his cousin. I was absolutely disgusted! I won't go into details about the full text, but he called her his Freak. She asked him if he had told anyone about them. He said no and she had better keep her mouth shut. They carried on some more about some of the more explicit things they had done and talked about how it would have only gotten better if we wouldn't have moved away. Needless to say, I'm hurt, angry, scared, and confused! I tried to act normal, but he reads me like a book, so after hours of him asking "baby, what's wrong?" I exploded and stormed out of the house screaming about nothing! He still doesn't know what the issue is, only that I won't stop crying. I'm just so confused right now. Should I even try to talk to him about what I saw? Or should I just go? I mean, we are both 30 years old. So we are definitely old enough to know better and they both seemed to be amused and turned on by the fact that they are cousins who are sleeping together.
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