Hello Steve and Shirley, I need some type of direction. My significant other and I have been together for 8 years. During the middle of last year he switched jobs and it wasn't the best decision. Things were not going right for us financially, but we were making it. One evening I was meeting him at his job so we could grab some dinner and head home. He decided to leave his truck at the job and ride with me. When he got in the car, my phone lit up and a picture of a guy pops up. So he instantly wanted to know who in the heck that was on the phone. I tried to make up something, but he did not want to hear the bull. He wanted to see the phone and I started throw it out the window, but I didn't. He finally got the phone and saw the picture of the guy and the text that was attached to it... all I can say is that the text was a bit over rated... He ended up hacking into my phone and found the whole conversation that the guy and I had. I did what I had to do to get my man because we split up after that. Mind you, the guy was just a pure conversation piece and there was never an intimate moment with us,no dates, just pure conversation. So when he took me back, I felt as if we were working on us. Now it's January of a whole different year and he still has relapse moments. He would bring the situation up in the middle of perfectly good moment, which leads to an argument. I look at it like how are we supposed to be moving forward when he is constantly taking steps back. He seems to think that since he couldn't provide at the time of the incident the way he used to, he thinks that's my reason for "cheating." Truth is, it was nothing more than conversation. I know I was wrong for doing this and I have apologized thousands of times. I need some direction in how to deal with his "relapse moments".