Dear Doug,

My husband is having an affair and I know it!  Two months ago I had a feeling something was going on with my husband.  Call it a woman’s intuition, but I KNOW MY husband and his ways.  We have been together for over ten years and married seven.  We have two beautiful children, own our home and take regular vacations.  Most would call my life “ideal”. 
 
We both are successful in our careers and have been relatively happy (so I thought) throughout most of our marriage.  The last couple of months he began acting funny, coming home late and snapping at both me and the children. Well, after much research I found out my husband was having an affair.  He’s been seeing the bartender at a certain well known establishment that he and I BOTH frequent from time to time.
 
The problem is, I SHOULD be irate, angry and beside my self, but I’m not.  My husband doesn’t know that I know.  I haven’t told anyone because I don’t want people in my business.  I really don’t know what to do, all I know is I do not want to give up the lifestyle I am accustomed to. Doug, am I crazy for not being upset and confronting him and tearing apart my family.  Can anybody in your audience relate to what I’m going through?
Please Help!