Dear Doug,

I am a man in my late 30s.  When I was a boy, I was abused by an older cousin.  When I was a teenager, about 16, a man approached me and enticed me with sex.  Though I was born and raised in a Christian family, I developed an interest in men.

My father is a deacon in the church.  I have read time and time again in the bible where homosexuality is condemned.  I never intended accepting this feeling because I still have an interest in women.  I am now married with one daughter.  But I am still attracted to men.  I also love my and would not want to lose her.

I have tried the best I can to get away from this, but can’t.  I feel my life is miserable, and I will not inherit the kingdom of heaven.  I feel so shameful to speak to someone.  Please, what can I do?